If you’re interested in getting prepared for anal sex or you’re just curious about what anal sexual activity feels like, giving anal fingering a try is worth your time.
Both men and women of all sexual orientations have discovered how good anal fingering truly is, and whether you’re fingering a partner or participating in a little fingering masturbation, this is one activity you’ll learn to love after a while.
What Is Anal Fingering?
Anal fingering is self explanatory and involves fingering the anus both internally and externally. You can participate in this type of activity to prepare for anal sex or simply because it feels good, and there are many ways to do it.
You can insert one or even two fingers into the anus, and it is up to you how deep to go because everybody has their own preferences and desires.
Anal massage and anal fingering go hand in hand, and if you’ve never done it before, it’s best to start out with some gentle rubbing on the outside of the anal area. You can massage the area and insert the finger only when you feel comfortable doing so, because with any type of anal sexual activity, there are no hard-and-fast rules.
Anal fingering can include rubbing, massaging, and fingering the inside of the anus so that you can explore on your own and make your own rules as you go along.
Anal fingering is also a great activity when you’re interested in anal play, but aren’t sure you want to participate in flat-out anal sex. After all, fingers are much smaller and much easier to control than sex toys or a penis, and anal fingering is simply a lot less intimidating for those people who are new to the world of anal sexual activity.
Simply put, it is a great activity for people who have never participated in any type of anal play, mainly because it is simple, inexpensive, and easy to get used to and to learn.
Does Anal Fingering Feel Good?
Anal sexual activity feels good because there are a lot of sensitive nerve endings in the anal area, which produce some amazing sensations when they are massaged and stroked. The interesting thing is that people of all genders and sexual orientations are enjoying anal fingering, thanks in part to these nerve endings.
At one time any type of anal sexual activity was considered something only gay men participated in, but that is no longer the case. Nowadays, everyone can enjoy this sort of stimulation.
Another reason anal fingering feels so good is because once you get started, the fingers really have a lot of freedom when it comes to what they decide to do once they’re inside the rectum.
Exploring the inside of the anus is a lot of fun and can stimulate you in more ways than one, and this is especially true if you are fingering yourself while masturbating. Better still, both men and women can easily experience this type of sexual satisfaction.
Anal fingering also feels good because many people associate it with an activity that is risqué or taboo, which increases the excitement and arousal that results once you’ve decided that you want to participate in the act.
It gives you a feeling of fullness as well, which many people are surprised at, but most people thoroughly enjoy. Just participating in something that is considered forbidden by a lot of people can increase the enjoyment you get out of it every time.
If you’re a female, you can easily become more comfortable with your sex life by allowing yourself to enjoy an activity that was once considered taboo, and most women are surprised by how good anal fingering actually feels.
Men enjoy the activity because it is easy to stimulate their prostate gland, often called a P-spot, which is considered the equivalent of a woman’s G-spot. For these and many other reasons, it is becoming easier to understand why so many people choose to participate in anal sexual activity, including anal fingering.
Asking Your Partner to Try Anal Fingering
If you or your partner have never tried anal fingering before, learning how to broach the subject can be a little tricky. This is why it is so important that you and your partner have a relationship that is based on open communication with one another.
If either you or your partner are uninterested in anal fingering, it is best not to try it just yet, because above everything else, anal fingering requires a lot of physical and emotional preparation for it to feel right.
Since the preparation for any type of anal sex activity is so important, it is best to spend a lot of time talking with your partner and deciding for yourselves what each of you will and will not be willing to do.
After all, anal fingering gives you a lot of freedom when it comes to the type of fingering you’re willing to participate in, so it’s important to set some ground rules before getting started.
You should also decide if you wish to allow your partner to finger your anal area or if you are only interested in this activity if you’re alone and masturbating.
Naturally, you won’t need to talk with yourself regarding what you’re interested in, but if you do decide to participate in this activity with a partner, the two of you need to decide beforehand how it’s going to work and what each of you is willing to do. This is the only way it will be comfortable and feel good in the end.
You may even wish to consider choosing a code word that each of you can use if something feels uncomfortable or painful while you’re participating in anal fingering; in other words, a word you can use to let your partner know that he or she should stop.
This may sound silly, but if you should get to the point where something doesn’t feel quite right, it is good to let your partner know as soon as possible so that the activity can stop and the receiver won’t have to suffer for very long.
The most important part, of course, is the communication between the two of you, because this is one activity that you should be able to participate in without any conflict or feelings of awkwardness on either person’s part.
Lubrication: Preparing for Anal Fingering
Unlike the vagina, the anal area does not lubricate on its own, which means that using lube is a must for anal fingering, or for any other type of anal sexual activity you might be interested in.
If you’re curious about the types of lube available, not to worry, because not only can you use various oils and lubricants for the job, but these oils and lubes are also very inexpensive, meaning you won’t have to pay a fortune just to keep yourself well lubricated.
If you like, you can make it easy on yourself and use coconut oil to lubricate yourself, but if you do choose an anal or vaginal lube product, it is good to learn the differences between the various types that are available.
Water-based lube is great because it isn’t messy, it is easy to clean off of clothing and bedsheets, and it absorbs very easily. However, because it absorbs so quickly, you may have to reapply it two or three times while you’re participating in any type of anal sex play.
Silicone-based lubes are thicker and have a gel-like consistency, but they are much messier and harder to clean off of sheets and pajamas. The good news is that you usually don’t have to reapply it as often as you do the water-based lube, which is why so many people decide on this type of lubricant.
The important thing to remember is that regardless of the type of lube you choose, you will need a lot of it, and you will have to make sure the anal area stays well lubricated the entire time you’re playing.
It is also recommended that you place the lube on the entire finger, because once you start fingering the anal area, you never know when you may decide to insert the finger – or fingers – deeper into the anus.
It does you no good to lube up only the fingertips, because you can easily decide to use the entire finger once you get started.
Warming up Your Butt Before Fingering
Just like any other type of sexual activity, it is important to be prepared. Because the anus isn’t self lubricating, you have to prepare both physically by using lube and emotionally by allowing yourself plenty of time to get aroused and excited about the activity.
Foreplay is important, and during foreplay you can choose to start with some simple massage techniques so that you’re not rushing into anything.
Anal massage is a great way to prepare for any type of finger play. Start by placing lube on your fingers, then all you have to do is stroke and rub the external anal area until you feel more comfortable about placing the finger into the anus.
A great anal massage can also get you a lot more excited about going further, but you should also take your time and not rush anything because going too fast can cause you to feel pain and discomfort, which is the opposite of what you want.
Just like any type of anal sex activity, lots of lube is needed when warming up for anal fingering. After all, what is better foreplay than participating in a long, sensual massage of the buttocks, thighs, and the outside of the anal area?
Create your own strokes and rubs because you can get as creative as you like when preparing for anal fingering. You should also remember to relax and breathe normally, because if you tighten up it can create discomfort and even pain in the anal area.
How to Finger a Butt/Anal Fingering Techniques
Since there are no real rules for anal fingering, you can do whatever you like once your finger gets inside of the anus, but there are some tips and suggestions that will help you enjoy your anal sex activity a lot more. These include:
- Place your finger only about half-an-inch into the anus, and press down on that internal muscle that you feel. Play around with it a little bit before going any further.
- When you’re ready, press down and hold that muscle for roughly five seconds, then move your finger upwards towards the top muscle and press down on that one for five seconds.
- Push the finger a little deeper into the anus and tickle the internal muscles using the first finger joint. This will also help the sphincter muscle relax a bit, which is crucial for making sure any type of anal activity is comfortable for you.
- When the receiver is ready, you will feel the muscles open up, and therefore you can slide the finger in even further without causing any discomfort or pain.
- If you do not feel the muscles opening up, this means the receiver isn’t yet ready for this type of activity, so you should stop.
- Also try keeping the finger stiff and not bending it, inserting it as deep as you can, and press outwards from the center of the anus so that you can massage the area gently in different directions.
- You can also try vibrating and moving your finger quickly, which gives the same sensation that a vibrator does.
- Try sliding the finger in and out of the anus slowly, as it gives the receiver some amazing sensations.
- Whenever the receiver is ready, try inserting one or more fingers for an extra-full sensation and even more erotic feelings.
The feeling of fullness is one of the many reasons why anal fingering feels so good, and when you use more than one finger for this activity, it gives the receiver that full feeling every time.
If you have your finger in your partner’s anus and feel it tighten up at any point, you should slow down your fingering so that he/she can relax a little. If your partner can’t relax or this tightening up continues to happen, it can mean one of several things, including:
- You need to reapply your lube.
- You’re going too fast with your motions.
- Their body simply isn’t ready for that type of activity.
With any type of anal sexual activity, the receiver’s body is what should guide you in the right direction. When you’re involved with anal fingering, let your partner’s body tell you what to do, and don’t go against its wishes.
Otherwise, the anus is likely to tighten up even more, so the best thing to do at this point is to cease the activity, at least for a little while.
The receiver should also breathe normally the entire time, remain relaxed during the activity, and keep the anus properly lubed at all times. In fact, many people do deep-breathing exercises before participating in anal fingering, because it helps you relax and be fully prepared for what lies ahead.
Another important tip is to always go slowly, even if you’re an old pro at anal sexual activity, because rushing into anal fingering or going too quickly will never produce the results you were hoping for.
Male Anal Fingering
The thing about anal fingering that surprises many people is that even straight men now enjoy this activity. Why? Mainly because it is a way to stimulate the prostate gland, which is generally considered the equivalent of a woman’s G-spot.
The prostate is a walnut-shaped gland that is located directly below the bladder, and if you’re fingering your man’s anus, you can easily find it without much effort. A gentle, but firm, massage is all it takes to bring that man to ecstasy and even to orgasm if you know what you’re doing.
Starting out slow is just as important for men as it is for women, and once you get inside of your man’s anus, you can do quite a lot with your fingers. Try starting with the smallest finger first and working your way up to the middle or pointer finger, and don’t go in very deep at first.
Try to find the sphincter muscles so that you can massage and relax them, because the looser these muscles are, the better the fingering will feel for him.
Gay, straight, and bisexual men can all enjoy anal fingering because all of them have anuses with those sensitive nerve endings mentioned earlier. If you want to increase the odds that your man will have an orgasm while he’s receiving anal fingering from you, simply stimulate his genitals at the same time that the anal fingering is going on, and it will produce some amazing results for both of you.
The Prostate: A Bonus for Men
If you’re going to provide some anal stimulation for your man, make sure you don’t neglect the prostate gland, because that is one of the main reasons why both straight and gay men love anal fingering. There is also no need to worry about injuring the prostate or causing him any pain, because this is very unlikely.
There may be some discomfort in the beginning, especially if you’re not using enough lube, but this should go away completely over time as you get more used to the activity.
In addition to sexual stimulation, there are also a few health benefits for massaging a man’s prostate gland. These include:
- It helps with some of the causes of erectile dysfunction.
- It helps with painful ejaculation.
- It can help improve your flow of urine.
- It can reduce the symptoms associated with an enlarged prostate.
- It helps reduce inflammation of the prostate, known as prostatitis.
In fact, some men do not even need to have their genitals stimulated to achieve orgasm, because they find that massaging the prostate gland in the right way will cause them to have an orgasm that is also a great one.
Female Anal Fingering
Just because women don’t have prostate glands doesn’t mean they can’t enjoy some anal fingering. If you’re interested in stimulating your own anus, the rules are the same as they are for any other type of anal fingering. In other words, lots of lube, breathing properly, and taking it slow are rules you should always abide by.
Once again, if you stimulate your genitals and your anus at the same time, you can count on it resulting in some mind-blowing orgasms every time.
While participating in anal fingering and masturbation, you can insert the finger part of the way or even deeper than that. You can wiggle the finger, slide it in and out of the anus, massage and rub the internal anal muscles firmly, and even wiggle and “shake” the finger once it gets inside of you.
You can also explore the area and see what’s in there, and if you take your time it can be one of the most erotic things you’ve ever experienced.
When you get comfortable using one finger, you can use two or three of them next, and since you’re masturbating and doing this to yourself, you can always stop if something feels uncomfortable or you simply don’t like it.
Everybody has their own likes, dislikes, and preferences when it comes to anal fingering, so don’t be afraid to create your own activity so that you can delight yourself again and again in the bedroom.
Anal sexual activity is very popular, and if you’ve never tried it before, you owe it to yourself to give it a shot. Men and women of all sexual orientations are finding out how much fun it is and how good it feels, and all it takes to make it a success are a few simple rules and tips.
Anal sexual activity was once considered a major taboo, and it was an activity that few people admitted to doing. Nowadays, however, that is no longer the case, so if you’re curious or interested in anal fingering, there is no time like the present to get started.